A personal Manifesto for when the doubters doubt and eroders erode.
Some years ago when I shared my dream and vision of launching a blog to support other women through the process of inner transformation, I was blindsided with a very harsh judgment from someone who hadn’t known me long about just what I had to offer.
Y’know … basically a typical judgment: uninformed and close-minded.
You know what I’m talking about. It’s something we all deal with, especially as we begin honoring this Journey we’re on by naming it and giving it place. That’ll bring out the judgment mongers like nothing else.
So rather than spiraling down in doubt and unworthiness as I’ve done in the past, I went home and grabbed my laptop and pounded out the following reminder for myself. For when it happens again. Because it will. That’s just life.
To come to a place of authenticity, we can’t avoid it. We just have to desensitize ourselves to it. Until one day, we’re not so reactionary.
WHAT I KNOW
I KNOW I am not the sum total of other people’s judgments about me.
I KNOW I am not bound by what people think of me.
I KNOW that Eleanor Roosevelt was right, that people can’t make me feel inferior without my consent.
I KNOW what I’ve built in me, and I KNOW how far I’ve come.
I KNOW that ultimately, I’ve got nothing to prove. Even to myself.
I KNOW Me now … and that’s Enough.
What I would love for you to do is create your own “WHAT I KNOW” list, poem, whatever you want to call it. Let it come straight out of the belly, where true Knowing lies.
Armed with this soul truth, you’ll be surprised at how effective it can be – like a mantra – for shielding yourself against the Great Lie:
That you’re not good enough. Not smart enough. Not WORTHY enough.
All that’s just bullshit. But sometimes it helps to be reminded. Especially by someone who’s been there, and who – in all likelihood – will be again.
We need to get real shrewd about what we KNOW. Wise. Discerning.
It’ll only make us better.
Catalyst Questions to journal or ponder …
Despite what you may tell yourself, there are things you KNOW. No matter what anyone says. What are some irrepressible things you know that you refuse to let anyone take away from you?
What’s kept you going against the nay-saying? What dreams or memories or touchstones do you cling to and come back to every time someone knocks you down?
Write them down and keep them close – vital – like a talisman. Strengthen their muscles in your mind and heart. Before long, you’ll begin to feel their power helping you bear up against the forces intent on putting you down.
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