The more you require of yourself, the more you'll require for yourself.
It might sound a little backward, but requiring more of ourselves – more honesty and alignment with our values – will lead to requiring more from others.
Greater clarity, compassion & justice inside can’t help but result in greater clarity, compassion & justice outside.
I see so many people get this cart before the horse, of trying to establish external boundaries before they’ve gotten clear with the ones inside. And that’s why they struggle.
That’s why I struggled. I was trying to ‘be a good person’ as defined by the culture and please people because I derived my value by ever-changing external markers. And I was constantly shape-shifting myself for more approval and validation from people who, like me, weren’t anchored from the Well within.
That’s just an emotional car crash waiting to happen. Because, despite all our best efforts and intentions, we can’t escape being human. Even as we try to reach beyond. We all have wounds and disappointments and baggage that develop over the years. That’s a given.
But allowing it to grow inside into a big mound of chaos that we just shut the door on can’t continue to be our method of operation.
We have to be honest with ourselves, take responsibility for where we are, and remember to be gentle with ourselves. Loving. Compassionate. Patient. Kind. While continuing to face and do the hard, healing work of the Soul.
But as we do, we’ll find – over time – that the landscape outside becomes a little easier to navigate. Because we’re dealing with and clearing away the noise and muck inside. Serve our soul, serve the world.
I love a good win-win.
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